Until recently, marriage was considered “solely” the most beautiful way for two lovers to celebrate their union with their relatives and friends. This is still true but it actually might appear a little bit simplistic since wedding celebration are becoming more and more structured and rich in details. Often during wedding planning you might occur in words like  

Style, Mood and Theme that, most of the time, seem to have the same meaning.

Driven by curiosity and the need to clarify ideas to couples who rely on me, I will try to discuss the real meaning of these terms, starting from the common sense!


From the english vocabulary:


“A particular procedure by which something is done; a manner or way.”

“A distinctive appearance, typically determined by the principles according to which something is designed.”

“One’s usual way of behaving or approaching situations.”


For example, classic, modern, vintage, shabby, country,  bohémien, glamour, eco-Friendly are all styles.


Mood is literally “a state of mind, a disposition of feelings. More relevant to our topic, t is the Atmosphere that can be created and therefore transmitted”. Also in this case some examples of mood may help to understand:  Romantic, Sober, Formal, Informal, Sophisticated, Elegant, Retro etc. Let’s try to combine a style and a mood: A shabby chic wedding is both romantic and informal at the same time. A Glamor wedding can be sophisticated, elegant or sumptuous.

In summary, STYLE reflects the personal features of the spouses, MOOD is instead the set of emotions and feelings, designed to create the atmosphere that the newlyweds wants their guests to live on their wedding day.

WARNING! Styles and moods are not always compatible!

A country style wedding, for example, does not fit a formal or sophisticated mood.

The keyword is CONSISTENCY.

STYLE and MOOD are closely related to each other and combined through every detail and element of the wedding. The whole setting and atmosphere must recall what the couple want to express.

The Theme is defined as The subject of a talk, piece of writing, exhibition, etc.; a topic, an idea that recurs in or pervades a work of art or literature.”


To explain it better, let’s take some more concrete examples: you can opt for a sea themed celebrations if you chose a seaside venue otherwise you can try a more generic theme, for example a color, a flavour or something like that. There are so many elements or objects that can inspire the THEME, in short, imagination has no limits!

Melania Millesi Wedding Planner